We are pretty laid back parents... I figure a good dose of "figure it out" is crucial for a child's development (I used the word "development"... That makes me an expert, I'm pretty sure...). The girls wanted to start a fire. So we let them. It was uniquely made, so there was a LOT of smoke. And here is where the "figure it out" experience they've had their whole lives came in to play....Make it work, girls. Make it work.